I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years. In that time, I covered about 99% of all our expenses. Rent, groceries, dates, trips—you name it, I paid for it. I didn’t mind. I thought of it as part of loving her and building a future together.
The other day, she wanted a bubble tea. Just $10. But I had forgotten my wallet, and my phone battery had died. So, for once, I asked her if she could cover it.
She frowned, sighed, and reluctantly pulled out her card. I brushed it off at the time. But the next morning, she looked at me and said:
“Hey, don’t forget to pay me back that $10 from yesterday.”
I froze.
After four years of me paying nearly everything without complaint, she couldn’t let one small moment go. It wasn’t the money—it was the principle. It showed me that in her mind, things weren’t mutual. That she wasn’t willing to step up, even in the smallest way.
It made me question everything. Love should be about give and take, not one person carrying the weight while the other keeps score.
That $10 bubble tea was cheap—but the lesson it gave me was priceless.
